Positive Chatter = Positive Results
We receive positive results when we change negative chatter to positive chatter. Business and personal relationships improve. Doors are opened, and the right people and opportunities for success are placed into our lives.
In As a Man Thinketh, James Allen writes “as we change our thoughts toward things and other people, things and other people will change toward us.”
Our daily lives reflect our habitual thought patterns. Some of us consistently experience conflict at work or in our relationships. Maybe we suffer from chronic health issues or financial strain. We might think our unhappiness is a result of our circumstances. The truth is our circumstances are a result of our habitual thoughts. So how do you change this?
Before we can experience the positive, we have to dump the negative.
Dumping the negative chatter and increasing the positive!
Have you heard the phrase “the itty bitty shitty committee?” We don’t know about you, but our committees are quite loud at times!
When our heads are full of negative chatter, it is exhausting. We lose focus and concentration at work. We might snap at our peers and find ourselves struggling to handle conflicts in a calm manner. Negative chatter can have a negative impact personally and professionally.
Below are three tools for dumping the negative and increasing the positive:
B.L. Fredrickson et al. (2011) did a study testing the theory that meditation practice increases people’s daily experiences of positive emotions, and positive emotions compound over time to build what they call “personal resources.” Personal resources include increases in mindful attention, self-acceptance, positive relations with others, and good physical health.
Over a period of nine weeks, they saw an increase in the test subjects’ positive emotions. As their lives improved and they experienced positive emotions throughout the day and not just during the meditation, their positive emotions continued to grow; hence, the compound effect. Fredrickson et al., concluded “positive emotions are the mechanism through which people build the resources that make their lives more fulfilling.”
Having these personal resources brings positive results in our professional lives. We are able to concentrate better and be productive. We make decisions on a daily basis where confidence and clarity are essential. This might include handling negotiations; effectively appointing the right employee to a particular project; intuitively knowing how to respond to a conflict; or, dealing calmly with being passed up for a promotion.
Starting a meditation practice
Begin with sitting comfortably staring at a candle flame, and focus on breathing in and out. Continue this for 3-5 minutes. Thoughts will come and go during meditation. Don’t judge the thoughts. Let them pass through and out of your mind like the flow of a river.
Use a meditation app
Try our favorite app, Meditation Studio, for work, leadership and performance meditations to give you greater focus and edge.
Meditation Studio has over 400 meditations from 40 leading teachers!
Below is the link to download Meditation Studio to your iphone or ipad:
Another way to dump loud chatter is through journaling. Write down every thought that enters your mind. Continue writing until the words cease. This is an effective tool that can clear the mind at night to induce restful sleep or bring clarity to a problem that you were mulling over in your busy mind.
3. Daily gratitude lists
Write down something you are grateful for each day. Start with a goal of 5 things daily, then increase to 10, and eventually you’ll fill a whole page. An example can be as simple as waiting for the city bus in the heat of the day and thankful for the reprieve when a cloud passes over the sun. It can be as complicated as writing down something positive about your “irritating” coworker instead of focusing on what is bothering you. Gratitude lists increase positive thoughts about our daily lives.
Watch this TED Talk by Shawn Achor “The Happy Secret to Better Work”
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